The nest widens: how to manage the arrival of the first child. Many say that the choice of wedding dress can be defined as one of the greatest joys of life. You will look at yourself in the mirror. And you will find yourself enchanted in that simple wedding dress that is the perfect crowning of your dreams in your eyes so that you will not stop thinking about how you will hold back tears in order not to ruin the bride’s makeup. In this article, we speak instead of the real big reason that makes the heart burst with joy because only then do you really understand what love is.
The zero point is that moment from which everything starts. And everything takes shape. An idea, a desire, a need that you feel to enter into yourself taking all of yourself. And becoming the most irrational and visceral part of your existence. Choosing to become a parent is an act of love, choosing not to become it is the same. But choosing to talk about it is an act of immense love. For many couples it happens without too many words, others feel the desire together and others choose to talk about it with sweet phrases of love.
The idea of having everything under control. And fully understanding the upheaval that is happening in your lives will lead you to an incredible search for information on all fronts. There are numerous blogs and magazines for exchange. And a comparison between new parents, but be careful not to enter the vortex of research, rather be guided by your feelings. An advice? The constructive comparison with those who are experiencing your own emotions can reserve you some pleasant surprises. Then subscribe along with childbirth preparation classes, with the same impetus with which you have dealt with the premarital course, except that here vi will exchange tips on being a parent.
Get ready to face together with a new way of experiencing everyday life and planning. You will already have the feeling during the pregnancy. But the upheaval will be total when you have your baby in your arms. Among the phrases for the promise of marriage that you have pronounced on the altar, there is also that of being ready to welcome the children who will come and being parents means precisely this: being able to put first the love. And the needs of the own children , sacrificing the superfluous, possible vices or purely selfish desires.
The total upheaval will occur when the child is with you. So there you will have to be strong, patient and prepared. First, establish a new family balance made of routines. And times that are repeated cyclically: the times of the game, of the bedtime, of the baby food, the scents and the sounds for the environment. When the situation is calmer, dedicate time to the couple, cut out some of the moments of your own, wear a beautiful formal dress and think a little ‘to you: a simple dinner at home, by candlelight, without too many pretensions, it may be good to start.
Three is the perfect number that you have to start thinking about in order to reach a balance of compromise, sacrifice, enthusiasm. And happiness in the shortest possible time. Three is the perfect number that you have to think about when the fateful intrusions will begin to arrive. Some to favor good, while others will come upon you without too many explicit requests. Try to keep your nest tight , exactly as you did when you received those unsolicited opinions on wedding favors ideas (to do them, not to do them, how much to spend, what brand to choose); delimit the spaces of couple and family; try to make it clear that the support of grandparents, uncles, relatives, and acquaintances is good that it starts from you rather than plunge you out of nowhere.
To this great and immense beauty, we would like to add that if the news of the arrival of the first child precedes the wedding date, well your marriage will take on a magic and a meaning so high both in the sentences of marriage , commonly pronounced during the celebration that in the sentences for wedding anniversary that you will exchange each year, knowing that you have in your arms the greatest fruit of your love.